The Importance of Mindset in Motherhood:
3 Ways to Ground Yourself as a Mother
Hey! My name is Domiana, and I am a former pro athlete, two-time bestselling author, and international speaker helping moms shift mindset, heal trauma and transmute energy to create alignment.
Here’s my divine download for the day…
Mindset is everything in motherhood.
As mothers, we have all these things we have to do. But also, on the other side of that coin is that we have the opportunity to do these things, and we get to choose how we do them. We are the only people who can choose how graceful we are when it comes to doing the things that can be quite difficult in motherhood. If we can learn how to develop an abundant mindset in place of a lack mindset, we can create a whole new abundant reality…and a big, open, heart.
In fact, “Abundance” seems to be a buzz word lately…
And for a good reason!
Living in an abundant mindset can change our whole perspectives on motherhood and life in general.
Here are some examples:
Lack mindset: When my husband tries to help, things just get messed up.
Abundant mindset: My husband is willing to help me.
Lack mindset: There isn’t enough time in the day to get it all done.
Abundant mindset: There’s still spaciousness left in this day to get the most important things done
See where I’m going with this? When we harp on what we don’t have or what is missing, we stay in a lack mindset where everything is doom and gloom. That only widens the gap of where you are and where you want to be.
In a lack mindset, we’re giving our power to our circumstances instead of giving power to our thoughts.
Staying stuck is a choice!
When we choose to look at situations abundantly or from the other side of the coin, motherhood feels a lot lighter and more pleasant for both ourselves, and the people around us.
Lately for me personally, I’ve been catching myself saying, “there isn’t enough time.” I’m at home full time with both of my girls and running a success healing + coaching business. I’m switching over systems, hiring people to my team, setting up sacred coaching containers for clients, all of the house stuff, and keeping kids alive. I have been letting myself operate out of a place of lack, scarcity and fear— convincing myself that there isn’t enough time and space for all things business AND spending quality time with my kids.
When I realized those thoughts were creating my frantic, hurried, suffocating reality, I switched it over to “woah, there’s so much that I HAVE done! There’s so much that I GET to do! And I ALWAYS find a way to make it work”
Here are 3 of my favorite ways to ground myself as a mother, in order to encourage mindfulness and get back into an abundant mindset:
Pause
Imagine your roots
Your breath is your anchor
Pause.
As mothers, we are faced with intrusive thoughts that make us feel guilty, like, “I’m not doing enough” or “if I take a break then I’m a bad mom”. I highly encourage that when you’re feeling overwhelmed and not able to be your best self around your kids, take 5-10 minutes to pause. In just a few minutes you can regroup and ground yourself.
We all need time off. You are worthy of a break. It’s okay to pause.
By pausing you are showing your kids coping mechanisms and self-soothing techniques, which are super important skills for them to learn. I’m sure you didn’t learn the healthiest ways to regulate your emotions or how to calm down so it’s really cool that you can teach them how by doing.
You get bonus points if you pause while your partner is home. Give them an opportunity to actually parent. Allow them a chance to spend quality time with them while you shut off. Let them step up and rise to the occasion. The trick is to surrender to how they do things and try your best not to micromanage or control their time together.
Also when you pause to take a break you’re giving your kids a break from you (and let’s be real…they need a break from you too).
You’re a good mom (hello you’re reading this so of course you’re a good mom!) If you’re anything like me, you are doing your best to raise autonomous, confident, conscious, kind, loving, emotionally intelligent humans. I can’t do that unless I embody all of those things myself.
My favorite ways to pause include:
A soothing bath with some bath salts & essential oils
A quick at home yoga flow in the comfort of your bedroom or living room
Stretch
Shake. Shake your body involuntarily. Go crazy
A calming guided meditation
Plant something new in your garden while your kids play outside
Remember, we are worthy of coming back to ourselves and it’s NECESSARY to take a break and pause every once in a while.
You can take a break and still be a great mom.
If you are reaching mom burnout, in need of break and don’t have much help or support, or are looking for ways to incorporate breaks throughout your day is highly recommend reading my bestselling book “Help I Need a Break from Motherhood: the SAHM’s Guide to a Balanced Life. ”
Imagine your Roots.
If you’re a solo mom, at-home mom, single mom or just not able to take that needed break at that moment, try a quick grounding exercise that I often practice while my kids are around. If you want to take it a step further, encourage your kids to join you!
Take a seat, close your eyes (or open if you don’t trust what will happen with your eyes closed), focus on your breath, and imagine yourself as a sturdy tree. As you inhale, grow taller, lengthen your spine and the crown of your head reaching your leaves and branches out and up towards the sky. As you exhale, imagine your growing roots from your seat down into the ground. With each exhale extend your roots deeper into the Earth all around you. Breathe out any thoughts that no longer serve you and when you breathe in, call in peace, order, and alignment. Remember that even when the wind blows you are sturdy like a tree. Even when it storms, the storm always passes.
As you end your 5 minute rooting exercise, list 3 things you are grateful for and remind yourself to stay in a mindset of abundance and not of lack.
Your breath is your anchor.
In moments where we feel completely overwhelmed, let’s remind ourselves to come back to our breath.
One of my favorite breathing exercises is “The Sip.” Start by exhaling completely. Then, inhale as much air as you possibly can through your nose. Once you’ve reached the top of your inhale, take a little sip of air through your mouth. I promise you, there’s more space for a little sip of air. Your lungs have a little bit more capacity so take in more. Then hold the inhale for a moment. Exhale and let it go. Then pause a moment before taking your next inhale.
While doing this breathing exercise, come back to your breath as your anchor. You control your breath, you can control your thoughts. You control your thoughts, you control your perception. You control your perception, you control your reality.
Remember your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.
Today, let’s affirm and say out loud:
“I can control my breathe.”
“I can live a life of abundance. Abundance is all around me. Look how much air I can breathe—it’s limitless.”
I’m proud of you and can’t wait to hear if one of these steps works well for you.
If you want to work with me privately to catapult your spiritual and healing journey, click here to schedule a Connection Call. I can’t wait to connect with you and help you achieve MASSIVE transformation.
Love you love you,
Domiana
