The Art of Receiving in Motherhood:
Easy Practices for Lightening Your Load
Hey! I’m Domiana, and I’m a former pro athlete, two-time bestselling author, and international speaker helping moms shift mindset, heal trauma and transmute energy to create alignment.
I wanted to share my divine download for the day:
You are worthy of receiving.
I just took a break from editing my audio book for my first bestseller, “Help, My Husband is Hardly Home”, and although I can see so much growth I have gone through from when I wrote the book to now, there was something that really resonated with me that I felt the need to share with you:
You don't have to lose your sense of identity to your children or your husband. You don't have to lose sight of what you truly want in life. You don't have to live a life where your needs don't exist or aren't met. You don't have to feel like you're not doing enough. You don't have to be exhausted and overwhelmed. You don't have to feel alone or suffer in silence.
And most of all, you don’t always need to be the giver, you are worthy of receiving.
Sometimes I feel like I have to take on the entire world by myself, and that is just not true. It’s a story I created and believed because if I didn’t do it all I wasn’t enough, I was inadequate, or I was failing. A loop that I continued to indulge in because although blaming, being a victim, and suffering in motherhood was hard, making a change felt way harder.
In other words: feeling sorry for ourselves feels easier than making a change.
BUT….
Both are hard. Both feeling sorry for yourself and making a change are hard.
Ruminating in the mundane is hard—and miserable—and so is taking action to create a joyful life.
Both suffering and taking responsibility for yourself (thoughts, actions, and life) are hard.
It’s just a matter of asking yourself some tough questions…
Do you want things to remain hard or temporarily be hard?
If you chose the temporary option, it’s time to invest in yourself now so that you can set yourself up for ease and create flow.
Do you want things to stay the same or do you want something different?
If you picked the latter, then it's time to do something different!
Let’s start to make that change together - you are never, ever alone!
I wanted to share with you 3 Easy Practices to Lighten Your Load as you navigate motherhood so that we can change for the better, together:
Accept that you are enough
Learn How to Receive
Keep a Receiving Journal
Accept that you are Enough:
“How can you receive love from others if you are incapable of giving it to yourself?”
This is one of those juicy questions I love to ask my private clients. As mothers, we need to ask, sit with, and reflect on this tough question. There are so many layers here. I encourage you to explore them.
There are many reasons that many of us have trouble receiving. One is because we have an inherent belief that we are unworthy, which manifests as inability to receive love, kindness, compliments, help, support, and money to name a few. As mothers, we believe that if we aren’t being ‘super-moms’ and overexerting ourselves to the point that we eat, sleep, live and breathe the lives of our children, that we are not worthy of receiving a break or help for example.
Let me tell you, again, and again: no matter where you are in your journey as a mother, you are doing your best, and you are ENOUGH.
You are inherently enough. You are enough because you are you.
Tell your inner child this: “you are worthy to receive just as you are—imperfections and all. You are loved no matter what. And it’s safe to receive.”
Once you heal your worthiness and other limiting beliefs connecting your productivity to your worth you’ll see how much easier it is to ask for support, schedule a babysitter, take a break or accept help.
I dive deeper into the other reasons why you are having trouble receiving in Mom Support, my group coaching program for overwhelmed, burnt out moms.
Learn How to Receive:
There’s a subtle way to receive. I call it the Art of Receiving and it’s one of my favorite things to teach my clients. When I share with them step by step something unlocks for them. It’s such a beautiful thing to witness when it clicks. It’s like an aha moment and a major shift happens.
Whether it’s your partner who hardly pitches in, family who want to help, or the friendly neighbor, you’ve gotta learn the Art of Receiving. It’s life changing!
The Art of Receiving takes some practice and feels weird at first, but once you do it watch how much easier your life gets. This is a pretty meaty concept I teach. but I wanna share with you the main points of how to receive the support and help you’re desperately in need of.
The Art of Receiving
Get clear on what you need
Ask for help the right way (yes there’s a wrong way!)
Put yourself in a position to receive
Receive it:
Surrender to how it’s done
Say thank you
When you finally get your husband to agree to do bathtime for one night, do you take over when you hear your kid fuss or cry? Or, do you allow him to be a co-parent and give his son a bath?
If this is hard for you to let go of some control you’ve not the only one. Take it from someone who’s husband didn’t have any household responsibilities and never let her husband do anything around the house. It’s possible to learn to let go of some control to let someone else help.
I am very particular, probably a bit OCD with how I like things done and my standard of cleanliness is pretty high. Some might say I am a bit of a control freak, but trust me, I’ve loosened up the reins and allowed myself to receive so much love and support. It's a game changer!
If you’re interested in diving deeper into how to receive and how to ask for help the right way we devote an entire week to exploring this concept through the Art of Receiving Module in Mom Support along with tons of other modules in this 10-week transformative group healing container. If you’re anything like me you would greatly benefit from just this one module alone. It’s life changing!
Keep a Receiving Journal:
I always recommend keeping journals to my clients. They are so important in starting to unpack our trauma, dump our brains, deepen self-exploration, document growth, and practice gratitude. Start a Receiving Journaling or add this exercise into your existing journal.
Jot down when you receive.
For example: someone gives you a compliment. Write it down! And you can even explore that experience. How did it feel? Did you accept it, deflect it, or downplay your greatness? Did you counter the compliment with a negative remark on how it wasn’t true? Did you compliment them back because that’s what you’re supposed to do? Or did you simply receive the compliment and say thank you?
Here’s another example: when your husband offered to take the kids, did you let him? Or, did you tell him that every time he tries to help it makes things harder for you? Did you make it very clear that he makes more of a mess for you to clean up whenever he “helps”?
In case this post wasn’t filled with enough knowledge nuggets, here are some affirmations for ya:
“I am worthy of receiving.”
“I am enough.”
I’m proud of you and can’t wait to hear of the shifts that happen when you finally take action and apply your knowledge!
If you want to work with me privately to catapult your spiritual and healing journey, click here to schedule a Connection Call. I can’t wait to connect with you and help you achieve MASSIVE transformation.
Love you love you,
Domiana
