Everything that is given to you is not yours to receive:
3 Tips to protect your energy when holding space for others.
Hey! My name is Domiana, and I am a former pro athlete, two-time bestselling author, and international speaker helping moms shift mindset, heal trauma and transmute energy to create alignment
Here’s my divine download for today…
Everything that is given to you, is not yours to receive.
Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that are ours to receive. We live in a universe filled with infinite blessings and abundance. For example, compliments are yours to receive. Receive a compliment without saying something to invalidate it. Just take it. Receive your unexpected blessings without questioning them.
However, in the same breath, other peoples’ experiences and emotions are NOT yours to receive. I am here to tell you that we must always try our best to hold space for the people we love - but, that does not mean that we must take on their emotional baggage, problems, issues, fears, doubts, or insecurities as our own.
I have to remind myself of this often, especially with my two toddlers. I’m their safe haven that gets the brunt of their big emotions. I’ve also found that with my friends, I often become their “go-to” for their personal dilemmas.
If you’re an empath like me, you know that it always feels like everyone is emotionally dumping onto you constantly...
And we feel like we have an open nerve ending to the world. It’s almost as if we are supercomputers downloading and storing the low vibrating emotions and energy of the people we love the most...let’s be real...downloading and storing the low vibrating emotions and energy of everyone who talks to us can be a seriously heavy burden to hold.
We don’t have enough space for that and eventually, we end up running slower and slower until we crash. The weight of everyone else’s emotions wears us down, and that is not the frequency we want to operate out of either.
If this sounds like you…
Here are my top 3 tips to protect your energy when holding space for others:
Don’t over relate: It's deteriorating and draining.
Ask, “do you want my input?”
Enforce energetic boundaries.
Don’t over-relate: it’s deteriorating and draining.
When we hear the problems, issues, or fears of the people we love, it often reminds us of aspects of our lives that aren’t in alignment. Or maybe it brings up past trauma, experiences, or feelings similar to your loved one. Hold your power and listen, but don’t relate. Just because someone is going through something similar to what you are going through now or have gone through in your past, does not mean that you have to resurface old feelings - especially if you haven’t fully resolved and worked through them.
Empaths holding space can be super energy-sucking, which is why you need to learn how to hold space instead of taking everything on as your own.“I will hold this space, but not over-relate” is how you’ll learn to take your power back from an energy vampire.
Ask, “do you want my input?”
Offer an elevated perspective if they say “yes” to your advice. Let them know that suffering is a mindset. You can inflict harder times from your thoughts. Any problem that arises in our midst has developed from an impulse in our subconscious minds. I know, I know... people don’t want to hear the elevated perspective or upsides of a situation when they are wallowing in their own self-pity, misery, and martyrdom, but, eventually, they’ll be in a place where they are ready!
Try to shift the narrative and let them know how, for example, their loss of a job means that something even better is on the horizon, or, their car being stolen means that the universe is aligning to 1) keep them safe, and 2) create space for something else to enter their lives.
By shifting your mindset towards offering an elevated perspective, not only will you be able to offer helpful and mindful alternative thinking patterns, but you’ll allow your body to stand in her power and keep that high vibrating frequency you’ve worked so hard to reach.
Enforce Energetic Boundaries.
Something I love to do when I’m in a situation where I feel that someone is offloading their heavy experiences and emotions onto me is imagining a protective force-field type of light surrounding my body - repelling any low vibrations. I stand within this purple and blue protective light surrounding my body and mind, which allows my loved ones to offload their feelings without soaking up the low vibration. Think energetic boundaries - it’s like your aura is impenetrable and your energy is protected with a shield.
Not only is this a great alternative for us to emit our own frequencies in the face of adversity, but it’s a great way to stand in our power and protect our energies.
You can also call your energy back into your body by closing your eyes, placing your hands over your heart and taking a deep inhale. As you exhale, release everyone else’s energy.
Today, let’s affirm and say out loud:
“Everything that is given to me is not mine to receive.”
“I don’t have to receive everything that is given to me”
I’m proud of you and can’t wait to hear if one of these steps works well for you.
If you want to work with me privately to catapult your spiritual and healing journey, click here to schedule a Connection Call. I can’t wait to connect with you and help you achieve MASSIVE transformations.
Love you love you,
Domiana
