3 Reasons Why You're Stuck & How to take Action
Hey! I’m Domiana, a former pro athlete, two-time bestselling author, and international speaker helping moms shift mindset, heal trauma, and transmute energy to create alignment.
I wanted to let you know that you don’t have to live life like you’re stuck, you can take action.
So you’re feeling stuck? I’m just taking a wild guess… The truth is, no matter how stuck we truly feel - there is always a way out. There is always a way to take action and create the shift you desperately desire.
So I want to, first off, just start by saying, being stuck feels seriously funky, right? Like, it feels like you’re somewhere floating in between, “I'm not who I was before '' and “I am not quite who I want to be”, or, “I’m not who I know I’m capable of being”.
You’re just kind of in this no man's land, floating through, maybe even coasting on autopilot… Maybe the same thing keeps happening over and over again and you feel like you’re stuck in a cycle. Maybe the days look the same. Maybe they're just very blah.
I'm here to tell you that that does not have to be your life and you do not have to stay stuck. I can teach you some tools today to help you pull yourself out of the funk. Because it's tough - there’s no denying that. And it's especially tough to go through alone. So I want to reassure you you’re not alone. You are not the only one feeling this way, and I’m here to help.
If you’re feeling stuck in motherhood, or even just in life in general, there are likely 3 reasons why:
You don’t have a plan of attack
You are missing community
You’re not being held accountable
Maybe you’re missing one, two, or all three...
So here are 3 ways to take action and move toward pulling yourself out of the mud:
Create a game plan.
Build your Community.
Hold yourself Accountable.
Create a game plan.
You don't have a game plan and that’s why you are still stuck. You think you can see the end, but you have absolutely no clue how to get there. How are you supposed to get there if you don’t have a roadmap?
So I am a retired professional basketball player, and I often use those experiences from playing as examples to show how these concepts translate to motherhood. I fuse it all together with things like mindset, mental toughness, athlete mentality, and perspective shifting, coupled with my holistic healing modalities like breath work, EFT tapping, yoga and energy work to help my clients get unstuck and take action.
So think of a game plan in terms of basketball:
You don't go into a game without a strategic game plan. You don't go into the game without doing your homework right? You scout the other team so you know their strengths and weaknesses, prepare a defensive scheme, start the game off with this set of plays, if your opponent zones you then you run XYZ. You prepare for all of the different scenarios. You also have goals: your team’s shooting percentage from the field, what you want to hold your opponent to shooting from the field, how many offensive and defensive rebounds you want to limit the other team to, your team’s free throw attempts and percentage, how many turnovers you want to stay under, turnover to assist ratio, and so on. But you see, you have a comprehensive game plan that you can actually action and you also have goals.
Same thing for you. Instead of turning a blind eye to your situation - sit down, get honest and real with yourself. What do you want? How can you get there? And what are your goals? From there, you can craft a plan of attack that will get you to where you wanna be. Some parts of the plan.
Something to keep in mind when creating your game plan is not to stress yourself out thinking too much into the future. Try to focus on what you can do right now, or today, to advance you a little bit further forward. Break down that one huge goal into smaller steps, and that’s the game plan. Focus on the next right step every single day. That will keep you from staying stuck and help progress you forward.
Reminder: it’s better to make small progress than to make none at all. What is your next right step? Think about what is doable today and just focus on that.
Build your Community.
Another major reason why you may feel stuck is because you are surrounding yourself with the right people. Maybe you’re completely isolated or lack community.
You are not meant to do this alone. We are communal by nature. Our brains are wired for connection. In order to feel a sense of purpose and belonging, you need community.
Surround yourself with like-minded women, or people. But I am definitely a firm believer that as women, we need women. Empowered women empower women. So a strong lady tribe is key.
I'm gonna go back to weaving this into basketball because ball is life! It’s a part of me always.
I couldn't have gotten anywhere without my teammates. Without my team, I could never have won the game alone. Their love, encouragement, and belief in me pulled me through some really tough times.
I know how difficult building a community can be outside of sports, or school, or college. But, it is totally possible and totally doable. The funniest thing is that the majority of the moms you cross on the street are also longing for a sense of community and belonging. I would encourage you, and anyone around you, to start speaking to other women more. Or, join a mom group! Better yet join my online community. Click here to check it out!
If you’re craving community or people who just get it I invite you to join my online healing community! We uplift, encourage and empower TF outta each other.
Have Accountability.
The final one is accountability. You’re stuck because you aren't being held accountable. Either you’re ont holding yourself accountable or you don’t have anyone/anything holding you accountable. And this is an interesting one, right?
Maybe you're stuck because you know what to do, but you're just not doing it. You’ve done the research, you’ve crafted that game plan, but you're still stuck. You’re stuck because you’re not following through or putting the plan into action.
You likely are missing accountability. Accountability can look different. Athletes have trainers, coaches, mentors, teammates holding them accountable.
I had all of the above too. I had my offseason basketball trainer to sharpen my skills on the court and strength trainers to improve my function, mobility and strength. I knew the workouts and skills already, but having someone else there with you makes you show up. Having someone else there makes you go a little harder.
My coaches pushed me harder than I would have ever pushed myself because they saw something in me that I didn’t see in myself. That’s the power of a great coach. They stretch you beyond your perceived limits.
I had mentors who walked the walk. I had WNBA mentors, women who played overseas, and my family members who played professionally as mentors. If you wanna get somewhere, find someone who has already been there.
And my teammates were showing up for those “optional” 5am pre-season workouts so of course I’m gonna get my ass up and go too! I never wanted to let them down so I always did my best.
For you, maybe accountability looks like checking in with a friend weekly to share your progress on a goal. It might mean joining a gym or getting a trainer. It could mean setting your alarm to wake up before the kids get up so you have a few minutes to get your day started as a woman and not only mom. Accountability might look like signing up for a class. It looks different for everyone so I encourage you to explore what type of accountability you need.
Take a good look at yourself, be honest and get real and ask: what do I need in order to follow through and take action? How am I stalling my progress? How can I hold myself accountable? Do I need someone to hold me accountable? If so, who?
When you finally take ownership of the part you play in your inaction and hold yourself accountable, that’s when you’ll notice a huge shift in your life, I promise!
In case this post wasn’t filled with enough knowledge nuggets, here are some affirmations for ya:
“I know my next right step.”
“I am ready to move forward.”
I’m proud of you and can’t wait to hear of the shifts that happen when you finally take action and apply your knowledge!
If you want to work with me privately to catapult your spiritual and healing journey, click here to schedule a Clarity Call. I can’t wait to connect with you and help you achieve MASSIVE transformation.
Love you love you,
Domiana
